Rock & a Hard Place

While in college, I made the decision to pursue a small job in the Food and Beverage industry. Hostess, server, bartender. The typical job, right? But what happens when you find a position and a group of coworkers that you absolutely love? Stick with it, maybe. But what happens when you are given two new managers that treat you like garbage? Sexists, rude, childish, unprofessional. It is amazing that my current place of employment would hire them both together after they both were fired from their previous manager positions. One for laziness, the other for not being able to get along with his female employees. What are the odds? Sadly, I am a female working for these pricks.

How am I supposed to fight and stand up for myself? How am I supposed to argue with a man that is “never wrong”? The one who got fired for not getting along with females is obviously the sexist one. The other one, the lazy one, just follows him around like a puppy; he must aspire to be like him. When the entire staff dislikes them both, what are we to do when we fear for our jobs? HR has been known to take sides, the wrong ones. How can we trust going to them or anyone higher up? Screwed? Maybe.

Today, I took a risk and decided to clarify some allegations made against me personally from my managers. After they came on board, they were trying to change everything at once. Some things, they thought they mentioned to everyone, (I guess), but didn’t. One thing being my ability to do homework while we aren’t busy. My previous managers and Food and Beverage Director were very aware of how I did things, and trusted that I wouldn’t be doing any personal work while I was busy. The other night, I was at work for 6 hours; no tables, no customers, no money. So what do I do? I start my notes. My two current managers knew because I started my semester last Monday and bring my stuff with me everyday just in case we are dead. The other “new” manager, who was taking over while they were both off, didn’t know about my “clearance”. I told her that I was allowed by the two managers and then it was left alone. The next day, my day off, I woke up with the stomach bug:/ And a missed call from my (sexist) manager. I call him back and get hollered at because I was doing my homework the previous night. I was never able to explain myself or even understand his intentions. I was constantly getting cut off and “over powered”. He told me that I will be getting a write-up (today) and then hung up.

What the hell just happened??? I was at a loss for words. I had never had a write up. What was going to happen to me and my employment? Anything…nothing? All of my coworkers told me not to worry, but I still did. Before going into work today, I had came up with some concerns I wanted to address before signing anything: 1) Was this matter important enough to call me on my day off? 2) You all never mentioned to me that I was no longer allowed to do my homework, knowing that I was doing it my last semester when you were managing here. 3) Is this severity of this really worth a straight write-up, rather than a verbal warning? Once I walked into that office, both were in there and I didn’t even finish #1. I got “attacked”, called a liar, and pretty much an idiot. I got accused of only doing my homework that night because there was a different manager. I never got to even argue back. I was told to clock out and go home when I told them that I would write my own statement before signing anything.

Here’s the kicker, ready? My (sexist) manager, before the conversation even started, claimed that he told me on “December 7th, 2017” that I was not allowed to do my homework. I remember this “day”, he told me I wasn’t allowed to sit down, even when we weren’t busy. I tried to argue that, then he claimed he said a different, more condescending phrase. After getting told to go home, I was pretty upset. While talking with my mom, I realized something. He went through some trouble to try and come up with the exact day and stating “you had your iPad and your notebook”. BUT!!! Guess what? My finals were both turned in on the 27th of November and the 6th of December. As of the 6th, my semester was over, therefore I wouldn’t have even had my stuff with me one the 7th. Credibility, now questionable. I can’t wait to take this information to someone in the upper management position.

Maybe justice will finally get served and I won’t lose my job!(: